What are you called?
So, I was daydreaming one night, making up a dialogue, and one thing that someone in my daydream said was, “Call people what they want to be called.” I actually have Liska think something along those lines in Secrets of the Moon Fox, when thinking of her vampire contact who had changed her name. It got me thinking about names and what we call ourselves.
Pretty much no one goes by their full legal name on a regular basis. Even people who tend to be called by full names probably don’t do that when interacting with people on a casual basis. How about you? What do people call you? What do you go by?
I spent a few years in Russia as a teenager. If you want to ask someone their name, the phrase actually translates to, “What do they call you?” The answer is, “I am called…”
I go by my first name when interacting with people in person. I go by H. J. Harding as a writer. I recently got hired as a substitute teacher and go by either Miss or Ms. Harding to students.
Neither of my parents goes by their first name. My mom goes by a nickname she chose as a teenager and my dad shares his name with his father and my brother, so he goes by the middle name.
Of my siblings and I, most of us go by our first names, but my one sister uses a nickname version of her first name. Well, our dad calls her by her first name and my brother calls her by another language’s equivalent of her nickname, which I started but don’t use as often.
Some people use different names with different people. Maybe in some situations, they go by their last name. Maybe they have a nickname with friends and a different one with family. What does that tell us about a character?
Some names have certain connotations. Some names seem more associated with certain times and places. These are things to consider when designing your character. It’s even more important when your character is in a situation where everyone gets a nickname.
Let’s take a name. Alexander/Alexandra. Personally, I’ve always liked the name. It also has several built-in nicknames: Al, Allie, Alex, Xander, Sandy, Lex, Lexi, etc. What do you automatically think of when you hear those names? If this was your character what name might they go by in what context? Chances are, no one person is going to use all those nicknames even ignoring that some of them are more common to one gender than another. Maybe yours tends to go by Alex, can’t stand being called Al, and cringes at Alexander/Alexandra because that is what their parents use when they are in trouble.
I just finished a draft of the third Moonlit Memories book. In the book, the main character is referred to by several different names. Anna is the persona she uses, pretending to be human and normal. Liska is how she refers to herself most of the time, part of Luna Liska, her use name as a ninja. This is also how I tend to refer to her. But Todd, the human who discovers her secret and knows her best, tends to use Sakaki, her real name. Each name belongs to a metaphorical mask that she puts on, which may change depending on who she is interacting with. What she is called in any section can be a clue to her behavior and even her mental state.
Names have power. It’s a lesson found in practically any fairy tale. How can you use names effectively? It’s not just having your characters have multiple names, which you have to be careful with, because it can be confusing.
Sometimes certain names have connotations associated with them. You can play with those to provide a little interest. Maybe use a typically gendered name for someone of the opposite gender. Use an old fashioned name for someone very young or vice versa. Use names from other countries or other times. Use names with meanings that contrast or compliment the character.
Don’t forget about the possibility of earned names. This exists in many cultures and can be a fun thing to play with. Maybe the accomplishment that earned them the name is one they regret later or is considered shameful in another culture. Or perhaps the name was meant to shame but they later consider it a point of pride.
It has been found that names of four or five syllables seem to resonate with people the most. Don’t ask me why, just use it. This can go for first and last name, so don’t feel the need to saddle your main character with super long names. There are also exceptions to the rule. Sometimes a good rhythm, resonance, or alliteration can be just as good.
Don’t have names too similar to each other, beware of main characters whose names who start with the same letter. Some overlap may be necessary, but unless it is plot related, try to avoid having a Mary, a Maria, and a Marcia in the same story. Or at least throw in some nicknames. Maybe Mary goes by Marz, Maria prefers her middle name of Theresa, and Marcia is usually referred to as Ms. Blackstone.
How do you uses names to add richness to your story?